One of the things i learnt from my Dad was how to be at peace with and in my life, situations and other people, this does not mean you pretend like you don’t have challenges but to deal with as it comes, one step at a time, taking what you can and letting go of things that try to put you down which sometimes includes people. But he also taught me to not allow trivial things that can be handled stand in the way of my relationships and marriage.
On Monday the 18th, i lost a friend and former classmate, we were in the same class, church and choir back in the University of Ilorin, she died in a car crash and till now as i type this post, i am still in shock. She was so vibrant and full of life, she wasn’t perfect but she wanted to enjoy life to the fullest. Even in the face of terrible health challenges and huge disappointments, she kept living and loving. She was more of a friend to me than i was to her, she kept in touch and always wished me the best when i rarely did the same to her. She was this huge ball of energy that most people sometimes avoided because of her brazen enthusiasm and audacity which i admired.
I think back on her life and the little i know and heard and i can say she lived, maybe not to the full in age but in quality. Her life has taught me to hold on to what matters, just like my Dad did. Don’t let the hurt that you can let go, stop you from enjoying a relationship,friendship or marriage. Don’t allow the grudge that you’ve held onto for so long that it doesn’t make sense anymore, hold you back from love and life. Don’t sweat the small stuff, don’t let unnecessary anger rob you of love and life.
REST IN PEACE ADEDOLA.